Articles by Paul Martin

GENDER ROLES IN GAY RELATIONSHIPS

Sun, 2012-02-12 19:13 Gays and Lesbians are often stereotyped as being free of the expectations of what it means to be a female or male in our society. Men can be as camp as they like while mincing through interior design shops in faux leopard skin belly button tops and make the best friends for women as they share... Read more

WHY MARGARET COURT'S COMMENTS MATTER

Thu, 2012-02-02 07:09 As a psychologist with over 25 years experience working with gay and lesbian clients and being an ex-leader of the “ex-gay” program Exodus, I was alarmed when reading Margaret Court’s most recent comments about homosexuality. Given my professional experience I am aware of the... Read more

INTERSEX: THE NEGLECTED

Mon, 2012-01-30 19:34 Our communities rarely talk about or even understand intersex which is a part of our ‘LGBTI’, so it may as well stand for ‘invisible’. There are more intersex people out there than you think -the statistics show that almost 2% of the general population is intersex. One... Read more

DATING MARRIED PEOPLE

Fri, 2012-01-20 12:44 For some people, bum fun with someone who is married can be a potent sexual fantasy. Whilst having sex with a married guy or woman can be hot, the issues can start if you develop an emotional attachment to them. Many married people finally gain the strength to come out after they’ve fallen... Read more

NEW YEARS REFLECTIONS

Thu, 2011-12-29 10:00 It is quite amazing what you can achieve when you use the act of reflection and I’m not talking about checking yourself out in the mirror. In my early 20’s, I spent half a day imagining I was 90 years old, looking back at my life and thought of what I was proud of having done and what I... Read more

MERRY CHRISTMAS- NOW- DEALING WITH THE FAMILY

Sun, 2011-12-25 01:28  DEALING WITH THE FAMILY Christmas Carols such as “Joy to the World” can entice many in our gender and sexually diverse communities to want to slap the nearest person to them. There is an expectation that magically on Christmas ... Read more

PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE??

Wed, 2012-01-11 00:23   The words passive aggressive conjure up images of a bitchy bottom in shiny leather with sharp teeth. They are also words that describe a destructive tendency that many people have which means that they are angry and people know it, but they don’t say any thing. The opposite... Read more

MYTHS OF THE ORIGINS OF SAME SEX ATTRACTION

Sat, 2011-11-12 10:00   A lot of time and effort has gone into research and theorising about what causes someone to be attracted the same sex.  Fundamentalist Christians use the outdated theory that it is a choice or it is due to childhood damage.  This enables them to say that people can change their... Read more

DATING ONLINE

Sun, 2011-10-30 10:00   The online world of dating is a cornucopia of pulsating possibilities where reproductive organs are displayed like an Italian deli cabinet where hardened glistening rows of cabana hang dutifully ready to be inserted into a moist focaccia.   It’s also a place where you can... Read more

ALL ABOUT MENTAL HEALTH

Wed, 2011-10-12 13:31   What is Mental Health Mental health is similar to physical health in some ways.  When you are mentally healthy it means you feel an overall sense of wellbeing and this enables you to enjoy a full and satisfying life and reach your potential as a person. With poor mental health it can... Read more