For years I have had a “love-hate” relationship with my vulva, it has a large mound, large voluptuous lips and can vary from being very bald to el natural depending on my energy level. The “hate” side of this relationship could be the reaction from some sexual partners… lesbians seem scared of it. My vulva is not small, tucked away or quiet, as we have been led to believe is the only acceptable look. This has caused great embarrassment for me, with new partners, always wondering what the comment may be. 

What I don’t understand is the need to have a “perfect” vulva, to the point where more and more women are getting labiaplasty to reduce the size of their labia (lips) – WTF! Have we actually criticised each other so much that we are sending our sapphic sisters under the knife? I am saying HECK NO!!

We are lesbians, we often like to be different, we are often inclined to feminist views and we generally love the vagina. So, why are we so critical of what is between our legs and the legs of the people we are sleeping with? Shouldn’t it be nice to explore the folds and creases of a beautiful, larger than life vulva just the same as a small, tight one? Shouldn’t we want to rummage through a full vulva of hair to find what’s underneath, just the same as a bald one?  Shouldn’t we be celebrating the diversity of our vulvas and embracing our differences? How boring would it be if we were all the same?

Today I am saying – My vulva is loud and out there and I like it that way. My relationship with my vulva, and any others that I may lay my hands on (*wink*), will now be a plain as day “love” relationship – no hate. The next time someone shies away from my vulva, it is simple, they don’t deserve it, and they don’t deserve me.

I am starting a vulva-lution! Lesbians assemble and bring your straight sisters too.